Abstract:
The term ‘rough sex’ has become increasingly used in mainstream media. It is
becoming more relevant in the criminal legal field after the so-called ‘rough sex’ defence was
used by a man in a high-profile murder case in Aotearoa, New Zealand. However, little is
known about ‘rough sex’, and how it is understood by New Zealand men who practice it. In
this study, I conducted semi-structured interviews with 12 men who have had ‘rough sex’
experiences. Though the majority of interviewees primarily discussed experiences with
women, two of the participants identified as gay, and their ‘rough sex’ experiences were
exclusively with other men. They were asked about their experiences of ‘rough sex’ and their
views on the wider context of ‘rough sex’, including gender relations and New Zealand
legislation. Interviewees had varying perceptions of what ‘rough sex’ is and how it sits in
relation to BDSM (bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, sadomasochism) and
mainstream sex. Most agreed that it is sex that involves some level of force.
In this thesis, I present two analytic chapters. In both chapters, I identify and examine
the patterns in the way men talk about ‘rough sex’ in general and their personal experiences,
using the analytic concept of interpretative repertoires. In the first analytic chapter, I highlight
two opposing interpretative repertoires that men draw on, to account for the relevance or
irrelevance of gender in ‘rough sex’. In the second analytic chapter, I examine how men
talked about consent and communication in a ‘rough sex’ context, through their use of two
interpretative repertoires. All men discussed the importance of having consent and
communication, yet most described instances where consent and communication were absent
or ineffective. For both chapters, I discuss gay men’s perspectives separately, due to the
difference in the patterns and their expressed difficulty in imagining the context for
heterosexual ‘rough sex’, which most other men’s experiences are based on. Overall, I discuss the implications of the discursive resources that men drew on to talk about ‘rough
sex’ in relation to the broader dominant discourses of heteronormative sexual practice.